11.25.08
I give to you, and you give to me…
Yesterday a single mother spoke to me about her priorities concerning marriage. She wanted to make sure she owned her own home and had her career established before taking the leap. Two things struck me about this conversation.
She snidely remarked on the dependency- how much she hears ” I have to ask my husband “. I pointed out that many people overhear my husband informing people that he will talk to me before letting them know something. If I love Nate, perhaps I want to put him first. Don’t people realize that if my husband is out working all day for me, and I am home (and healthy), it is common decency to create a nice atmosphere for him to come to? Logic demands this give and take.
Fear of divorce heavily weighed in as her second concern. She has seen this happen over and over, usually leaving the woman with nothing. I have never realized what a wonderful gift from God it is to never be aware of divorce as a future reality. My only fears are about Nate dying!
I am left wondering why she even wants to get married.
11.05.08
Light at the end of the tunnel…
Now that the elections are over, and that my baby is officially 7 months old, I can begin to think about blogging again. I think that seven months recovery time is phenomenal for someone who went from teaching piano to children, planning menus, reading a lot, shopping a lot, wasting time – a lot, to a super charged Mom who purees peas, carrots and other such yummy vegetables, checks her baby’s skin obsessively for rashes and chicken pox, and wonders where her brain went.
I am hoping that I will still be able to write in a readable way. So watch out, November!
