Yesterday a single mother spoke to me about her priorities concerning marriage. She wanted to make sure she owned her own home and had her career established before taking the leap. Two things struck me about this conversation.

She snidely remarked on the dependency- how much she hears ” I have to ask my husband “. I pointed out that many people overhear my husband informing people that he will talk to me before letting them know something. If I love Nate, perhaps I want to put him first. Don’t people realize that if my husband is out working all day for me, and I am home (and healthy), it is common decency to create a nice atmosphere for him to come to? Logic demands this give and take.

Fear of divorce heavily weighed in as her second concern. She has seen this happen over and over, usually leaving the woman with nothing. I have never realized what a wonderful gift from God it is to never be aware of divorce as a future reality. My only fears are about Nate dying!

I am left wondering why she even wants to get married.